Next to Jenny and Kris’ wedding, this wedding  of Johnny and Julie was perfect in every way.   It was X-cellent because it was held at Xavier University, Bellarmine Chapel.  Johnny had  called me several months back to ask if I would do a reading. And while I called him Johnny, Patrick always called him Kat.


Johnny (Kat) and Patrick were friends.  I would be standing in for Patrick.  I have known Johnny for years and seeing him all grown up, about to be married was wonderful. I found myself fighting back tears, wondering how I would get through my assigned reading, nevermind the intentions – praying for those who are gone, and saying Patrick’s name out loud. I am always, always grateful to know Patrick and Chris are remembered and I cannot explain why it feels like my heart seizes at the mention of their names and I cannot fight back the tears, even 16 years later.


As Johnny and Julie sat up on the altar, I thought about  wonderful friendship between Johnny and Patrick, remembering the time the police showed up at my door: 


“Mrs. Furlong, did you know fireworks are illegal in Ohio?”

“No officer, how long has this been the case?”

“Fireworks are illegal in Ohio. Period.”

“Oh, officer, I am really sorry, I had no idea.”   I’m trying not to smile

“Mrs. Furlong, your son and his friend are trying to blow up the boy across the street.”

“Officer, I am sure they aren’t.”  

From behind, I hear Patrick saying:

“Pssst, Mom”.  

“Patrick, I’ll help in just a moment.”  

“Pssst, Mom.  Mom, please.”  

“I’ll be right with you Patrick, I’m speaking with this kind officer.  He is suggesting you were trying to blow up the boy across the street.”  

“Pssst, mom (with a smile)  We were!.  He was trying to tip over my chair.  Johnny and I were trying to scare him.”

“OK officer, I’m really sorry, but seems this boy was trying to tip over Patrick’s chair and while threatening him isn’t a great idea, tipping over Patrick’s chair would be a disaster.” 

“Your son has a good friend Mrs. F, tell them to put away the fireworks.”


Or the time that Patrick was caught gambling in religion class.  “ It was the Final Four mom!” The principal called, collected the cash and turned it over to the missions.  Patrick and Johnny had already made plans for their winnings!   I still have his detention slip framed on my desk.


And at the end of Patrick’s life, Johnny was sitting in the hospital with all of us, talking to Patrick about how much he loved him.


I thought about all this as Johnny and Julie said their vows and started on their journey together. I felt so thankful to be a part of Johnny’s  life and for him to be a part of ours. Johnny was wearing Patrick’s watch and while I was standing in, we both knew Patrick was smiling:


“She’s beautiful Kat!  Have a wonderful life together.  I love you.”


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Comment by Carol Keskeny on September 9, 2011 at 11:40am

I know these friends to our sons are angels sent to us.  My son has had a friend with him since he was 3 years old, who has does everything from changing IVs to playing videos games for hours.  His love and support seem to be endless.  My son will turn 25 years old next month and I know the love of his friend has sustain all of us throughout the ups and downs of living with Duchenne's.  I stand in awe of his unconditional devotion and loyalty. I find myself wishing more people could live their lives using this as their model.  Thank you, Pat, for your strength, and your openness to share with all of us as we wind our way through our paths.  It's so comforting to hear/read your words and feel your heart. 

Best wishes to the newly wed couple.

Comment by Wyatt's Mommy, Melissa on August 22, 2011 at 5:11pm

That was beautiful.  The stories are priceless


Comment by Lisa Groeger on August 22, 2011 at 3:27pm

Those stories still make me laugh..I have seen the detention slip..I also seem to remember a story of them killing all the girls Barbie's or torturing them or something.  I love it.

However, it has been hard watching all the other boys grow up, get girlfriends and driver's licenses so I am sure this was very hard for you. My boys are still here but seeing everyone else move on is bittersweet..thanks for sharing.

Comment by David Beidler on August 22, 2011 at 2:30pm
What a touching way for both you and Kat to remember (not that either of you will EVER forget), and honor, Patrick.  Brought tears to my eyes!

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