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Am I overreacting, or just over protective?

Yesterday I took the kids to a little shop in town, somewhere we go farely often. Apparently one of the workers was babysitting ,who I am asuming to have been her grandaughter, the kids were all playing around togther. A few times I saw the little girl,3 years old or so, push Deacon, so I suggested to him to get in the cart, but like any 3 yr. old wanted to stay by his big sister, so I let him. The kids hide in a clothing rack, and when the grandmother tells them to get out, Deacon takes a little longer to get out. So this woman says "little boy I said get out!" and reaches for him. I stop her, and tell her I'll get him out, he falls easy and I don't want him to fall.(they have cement floors) She gives me a look and walks away, then the little girl pushes him again,this time he starts to cry. And the Gma tells the girl stay away from him, he's a cry baby. Which upsets him more. I take them over to a check out and the "gma" says to another worker "control your kids, it's not our responsobility if they get hurt." In my opinion he was not out of control. After I get home I decided to call the owner of the shop, and tell her that I think the "gma" handled the situation poorly. I try to explain that he has a hard enough time not falling on his own, she says she will talk to the woman about it. But I can tell she finds the the whole thing humorous(I can hear her laughing.) Later @ night I wonder if I should have just left it alone, and not called. What should I have done.? So, am I overreacting, or just overprotective?

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Comment by Kathy Brock on January 11, 2009 at 3:47pm: Hi Alica it's Gma. Kathy. I just got you message. I would just like to add I think you handled that very well and don't bother second guessing yourself if you should have called them back or not after you got home. If nothing else got accomplished for now at least you got to vent a bit. Gma. had no right to respond the way she did. I also noticed that my son has his and Jacobs picture on here now along with his wifes. Nice to hear from you. Keep up the good work. I probably wouldn't have reacted as kind as you did. Gma. Kathy

Comment by Gina Manning on July 23, 2008 at 11:59am: Hi Alicia,
I just wanted to say thay NO WAY DID YOU overreact the Gma was way out of line and just rude. Jill Castle from ppmd at the conf. had some cards and they read as follows: Hi. Thanks for your curiosity and interest. You have just encountered someone with Duchenne Muscular Dystropht. DMD is a progressive muscle disorder that causes loss of function and independence. DMD affects 1 in every 3,500 boys. To date, there is no cure. We are working to change that! To learn more or to support our cause, please visit our website. www.parentprojectmd.org.
I have to say that I used the card at the conf. to a couple that though they new what DMD was (which the didn't) so I gave them a card. They came up to me and said Sorry and Thank you. Sometimes we have to be so nice to people to make a point when all we want to do is punch there lights out. as Rhiannon said don't apologize for someone else's ignorance.
Gina

Comment by Rhiannon Traigle on July 22, 2008 at 2:24am: I do NOT think you overreacted at all. Unfortunately we are now in a position that we are more conscience of others and thier possible situations, so I think we feel the need to be 'nicer' in public. However, when people are 'untouched' by a tragedy like ours it is easy for them to be rude, unsympathetic, and down right shitty. I feel sorry for that woman because when something does affect her or a family member, she will expect compassion and have to learn that it doesn't come easily. Besides, I believe that what goes around comes around...you get from others what you give in this world. I think I would probably take it one step further and return with information about Duchenne MD for the grandma and owner to read...just walk in hand it to them, thank them for their time and leave...what they do with it is up to them. But please (if you read my blog you'll understand why I say this) don't feel sorry for defending your son and certainly don't apologize for someone else's ignorance.

Comment by Sharyn Thompson on July 19, 2008 at 3:39am: Wow, Ditto to all of the above!!! He was simply being a child, and not even a naughty or out-of-control one either. If it had have been my child, I wouldn't have been so nice and I most definately would have said something there and then. But then, that's me. I tend to speak before I think. Gets me into trouble sometimes, hehe. But, when it's my son or any of my kids, well get outta my way and let me at whomever casts the first stone!!

Comment by Misty VanderWeele on July 18, 2008 at 1:12am: dido dido !!!

Comment by Holly Bailey on July 16, 2008 at 10:20pm: I agree - you did not over-react. I would have reacted the same way. If you don't stand up for your child, who will and that goes for children with or without special needs.

Comment by Jennifer Collier on July 16, 2008 at 10:56am: Hi Alicia! Definetely NOT over-reacting. People need to be more sensitive of other people's situations!!! Although the Gma didn't know about Deacon and Becker MD, she still shouldn't react that way. I mean, calling Deacon a cry baby! It would have taken everything I had not to punch her in the eye! I am so sorry that you were made to fell that way and that Deacon was treated so poorly! People need to have some compassion! It sounds to me like he wasn't out of contral at all!