My son is 16. If it wasnt for his brothers, cousin, grandma and grandpa (and ofcourse me and my husband) my son would have noone. I too feel he has been left behind. He watches his brothers and cousin go to college, work and have girlfriends. It is heartbreaking. You are not lazy. My sons health upkeep is exhausting to him and myself. It takes more energy and time to do a simple task. My son too feels happy at home. What I do is have him go to sporting events, movies and out to dinner. I try to make sure his brothers and grandparents come so it is more fun. Do you have any siblings?
Well, my son is 13 now and he is in 7th grade and I wish I could say things have gotten better socially, but unfortunately they haven't. Last winter I did host a boys nite, as one parent had suggested here on this site, and we had 5 boys over and they all had a great time. My son was thrilled and I was even happier than him, I think. Then just recently for his birthday he called a few friends to go out that wknd to an arcade and to eat to celebrate, either noone answered or the kids were busy(some couldn't even call to let him know after he had left a message, now that's frustrating)! He did find one friend to come, thank goodness. I see him becoming isolated and it really bothers me. His brother is 16 and is driving now and I have asked him to include his brother when he goes out w/friends once in awhile. He has done this and it is great even thought they are not in his grade at school, at least he gets out without Mom or Dad around. I hope things change in high school. It doesn't help that he's shy and is very conscious of himself, his self esteem is very low and we are constantly trying to improve this. He hates to even look at himself, it's just terrible some days. We go shopping and to the movies and out to eat. Those are some things he really enjoys. I just take it one day at a time, I think that is all that we can do.
I hope things are going well for you and your family during this holiday season.