I pulled into a front space today and got out of the car. My son jumped out before me. An older man and lady were walking by and the man with a cane said you know you're in a handicap space and I replied yes, thanks, here's my permit and placed on my mirror. He said are you disabled and I said no I'm not and was silent. He started yelling at me and I pointed to my son as his back was to me. The wife started well he just suffers so much. I said whats the problem did you start to pull and and I cut in front of you ? She replied no, I said do you have a permit and she said no, I said You know you don't have to be so upset and that he can contact his doctor to receive one and that my card happens to be permanent. The wife continued to open her pie hole even after her hubby told her to let it go and I told my son to go ahead of me and I said you know I have an ill son with a disease and that is why I'm parking there and she said who?

(Like my healthy son and I were using the permit while my other son, that I don't have was at home) My son turned around and said Me...I was proud of him. She finally said she was sorry and I said you should be. As we walked into the store, my son said it's a horrible day. I said don't worry, it's not a big deal. I was shaking and almost in tears.

Of couse now that I've experienced this first hand, I know exactly what I'm going to say next time...and that is unless you're GOD, I don't think I owe you an answer. So frustrating.

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Comment by Carmen on November 18, 2010 at 12:05pm
I just get dirty looks from people, and you are right, we don't owe anyone any explanations,
Comment by Patti Frank on July 14, 2010 at 11:25pm
Screw them all! You know you can get a handicapped plate too. We have them on all our cars. Get them throught Motor Vehicles in your state -- no charge. If you want to respond, just stay calm and tell them your son has a muscle disease and can't walk very far even though he doesn't look "disabled" That's it. They'll shut up.
Comment by Keith Van Houten on April 28, 2010 at 11:30pm
Kristin - look for a form on the website for the Department of Motor Vehicles in your State.
Comment by Kristin Linke on April 27, 2010 at 3:06pm
People have some nerve. How do you go about getting the handicap card?
Comment by cheryl cliff on April 25, 2010 at 10:56am
At my son's school there is 1 good handicapped parking stall that I always use. One day there was another car parked in it so I went over to see who in the world could have used the spot knowing there isn't another handicapped kid/teacher/staff at school. Sure enough, they didn't have a sticker or placard, it was another parent there to pick up his child. I showed him my placard and asked him to move, recognizing him in the process...a local doctor...such nerve from someone who knows better!! Needless to say he apologized and never parked there again.

Not nearly as upsetting as your story Darcy!! So sorry that happened to you. We dmd parents really don't owe strangers an explaination of why we have placards/stickers, do we? This happens to all handicapped drivers at some point I suspect. Often enough its ok to just remind people of their unkind rudeness, to MYOB, and move along.
Comment by Lynn Bartels on April 25, 2010 at 10:29am
I had something similiar happen to me recently. I had parked and gone in the store with both of my children and a person I work with actually was standing at the return counter and said well you dont look very handicapped. I was simply stunned for a minute I wanted to yell obviously if I parked there I have a reason. I probably was a little rude as I am tired of getting those comments. I yelled at him that I was not handicapped but I have a child who has Muscular Dystophy and then I stormed off. Later I felt a little guilty and ended up discussing it with him at work and he apologized.
But he's not the only one, people get so angry over it like we are doing something wrong because they cant see a reason for us to park there. And it does tend to ruin the day when you feel you have to defend your actions. I think that your response is a good one I may use that next time myself.
Comment by Archana on April 24, 2010 at 9:38pm
I too face the same situation at my sons school at times.I am allowed to park in the reserved handicapp parking space in his school ,but I do not yet have the permit.So other parents stares at me and my son.I just try to ignore and continue with my life.I am ready with the answers too in case somebody raises the questions.

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