I've been told many many times that I spoil Nicolas. I know this is true, but I don't overly spoil him. I just know, like with any other conflict, when there should be discipline and when it can be overlooked. Just choosing battles is all. I let him get away with more than I let my older son get away with that's for sure. All kids really know how to make you feel like the bad guy as a parent. One thing that's really hard is the punishment of him not going anywhere that we had planned. I find it very hard to keep him from going places or doing special trips because I don't want him to miss a day of fun. Good luck!!