Today, our almost 8 year-old son came home with his Interim Report card (Trimester 2)
He is in the 2nd grade. He is progressing in all subject areas ( LA, Math, Science, SS, Religion).
The only comment on the report written by his teacher was this one...

"Mark is a bright boy and is doing well - but he's still pretty social in class."

I guess that means he's chatty? Is this what she means in teacher terminology? If so, what do I do about this? I have asked him to cover his mouth when he feel impulsive to talk during her lectures but he says he forgets to do this.
Any helpful hints in correcting this problem? Or, is this a lost cause since there is no dystrophin and since he's on a steroid? I'm not sure year after year other teachers will be as tolerant of this behavior as the one he has this year.

Thanks-
Tina

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Mark, meet Sam. Oh, wait. That's probably not a great idea. They'd be non-stop talking. LOL!! Sam is so incredibly chatty. Not to mention noisy and doesn't sit still. I haven't found a thing to cure it or even curb it. I do feel for his teachers. This year's teacher hasn't complained too much. Not sure if it's getting better or if she's just a saint.
I would like to be encouraging in this matter, but it will vary between teachers, some will be and others will expect them to be able to control their implus to talk. My children have all had issues with this.
OMG, My son talked the entire way home from Dr. Wongs visit in Cinci to Pittsburgh.
5 hours non stop. Must be common in our boys.

Darcy
Christian's Mom
Teachers wont be as tolerant. Justin tends to talk all the time. In class, out of class, etc etc. Its the teachers nice way of saying"he talks too much". I used to get that on my report cards!! We started practicing with Justin counting to 10 before he spoke, and in that time, think about what he was going to say and if it was the appropriate time to talk. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt. I, personally, do not think its a dmd thing or a steroid thing. My other two children do the same thing, as do my 5 neices and nephews!! We are just a family that likes to talk! As Justin has gotten older, he has gotten into trouble several times for the talking, and has been punished. We look at it as just a lack of control and thinking!!

--Samantha
Joshua is the same way in kindergarten. He's talking, sometimes unfocused, and when he has something to say... well... two minutes is too long for him to wait or he'll forget. We were told it was the ADD side effect of his deflazacort that causes this. I'm sure you all know by now that we use coffee beans, so his teacher keeps some at school so if he starts to react too much in this way, she gives him a bean and he's fine for usually the rest of the day. Try it at home and see if it works. If it does, he can use it in school too. It's not a medication that has to be monitored and if the teacher is having a bad day, well then she/he can have one too! :)
The impulsive talking is probably due in part to his personality, but is definitely a common symptom of boys with Duchenne on steroids. For now and in the future, my recommendation is to develop a positive behavior support plan that the teacher can easily manage and your son can easily understand and follow. What you are going to find as your son gets older is that he is going to get in more trouble for this through his schooling without much improvement and the teacher releasing all responsiblity to help on her/his part unless you have a implementable behavior plan. If you would like me to share an example of some behavior support plans my son has used throughout the years, please email me! kmajmiller@hotmail.com

PS. Does your son have an IEP?
My son has just the opposite problem. He is very shy in class. He has a very hard time joining in any group participation activities. He has extreme feelings of embarressment and is very self conscious. If people sing - he feels embarressed. He is embarressed to say people's names (unless it is people he really knows like family members). After 2 yrs with the same teacher he will still not say her name. He does OK with other kids if it is one on one or just a couple kids. He does however have impusivity problems, they are just demonstrated in other ways than talking. For instance, he will do what I call "motoring". He does this usually when he experiences fear, anxiety, too much sensory stimulation, or when he can't concentrate on a certain task anymore. This motoring usually involves running around, pushing a chair in circles around the room or running and hiding from people & under things. He will usually laugh and giggle when he does this. It can be very hard to get him to stop. He is in 2nd grade now and it has gotten better. He has been in the same classroom now for almost 2 yrs, but he still has his days. Fortunatly, he has a very patient teacher and aides that are very good at calming him down and redirecting him without getting confrontational with him. Getting confrontational with Daniel in class has usually resulted in him turning the classroom upside down and chasing him around the room. It's fight or flight for my little guy!

As I started reading this thread, my first thought was that it seems to be a common trait of boys with DMD because my son also talks NON-STOP!! His gift of gab started long before he started steroids though and I haven't really noticed an increase (I don't think that would have been possible...LOL) since starting deflaz 5 months ago. As a child I was a staight A student but on every report card I have from 1st through 6th grade my teachers made comments about me talking too much, so I think alot of it was probably just inherited from me.
no IEP. He attends a private Catholic school.
I'm sure a behavior plan with frequent positive reinforcements would help him. The teacher has probably done charts for students before. On the other hand, as a former teacher, when I have noted talkativeness in terms like "social" it wasn't too big of a deal. You may tell her if she notices him being more than just social, to let you know so that you can develop a plan.

Tina said:
no IEP. He attends a private Catholic school.
Before you jump the gun and think it has anything to do with having no dystrophin or being on steroids.....these 2 things may not have anything at all to do with his socializing skills.....my nephew who is almost 5 yrs. old is the same way....very bright little guy and very healthy.....could be something else making him so chatty.....may not be anything causing it.....just him being a very socialable little guy. My son has always been very shy and still is to some point and he is 23 yrs. old. I hope the teacher doesn't just tell the symptoms on the report and not make a structure plan and with your help try and correct ome of it.....should be able to work together with each of your own knowledge of his behavior and set ground rules to be followed at school as well as at home to benefit him, and be able to do it without each adult party thinking the other one knows more than the other one because of their education or dealings with such a matter or one is trying to just right out tell the other this is what needs to be done and we are going to do it this way ( their way or th highway, just doesn't work ).

Cheryl
If that is all the teacher wrote on his report card it could mean the teacher doesn't see it as a huge problem. He may just be talking during independent time or something. If it was a big problem she would probably request a conference. It could be a side effect of the steroid but it is also something that many kids have difficulties with. I think being too social was on everyone of my report cards growing up. Talk to him about it but chances are its just his personality.

Shannon

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